What do you as a man think about your sugarbabe has a boyfriend

[Dark Sugarbabe 162]

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Hi

I am new to the Sugar game. I am very curious, but probably also very naive in my approach to the game.

I'm trying my best and sometimes making a lot of mistakes in my approach to you men.

That's why it's fantastic if I can get some good advice and input in here, as I also get a lot of good sex and company out of the game 

I love sex and that's why I do this. At the same time, I am in a nice and stable relationship, where my boyfriend knows what I am doing. 

But how do you clients/sugardaddies feel about knowing that your sugar-partner is in a steady relationship? Does knowing in advance affect your desire to meet? Is it not good to find out afterwards?

Some say they turn on to fuck another man's woman, but is that a general feeling?

I have to say that I give myself quite a lot to my nice clients/sugar daddies both sexually and personally. And I’m looking for steady relations because I love to get to know people.

But I want to be honest so I just want to know, how you feel about it.

Kisses from E 

Redigeret 18. April, 2023 af Dark Sugarbabe

[etspil5moden 402]

 as Long as your boyfriend knows about what you’re doing  and he is okay with it , then i see no problems 

[Stangen 170]

I agree with etspil5moden comment.

[Dark Sugarbabe 162]

etspil5moden skrev, for 38 minutter siden:

 as Long as your boyfriend knows about what you’re doing  and he is okay with it , then i see no problems 

Yes, he knows and is fine with it. It events excites him 

But I am  more thinking about what the other man thinks?

I easily get horny and easily get real romantic with a sweet man. So I hope they are able to get that feeling too in this kind of relation and dont feel weird because there also are another man in my life.

Redigeret 18. April, 2023 af Dark Sugarbabe

[Johnny2022 36]

etspil5moden skrev, for 55 minutter siden:

 as Long as your boyfriend knows about what you’re doing  and he is okay with it , then i see no problems 

Amen! 

[Jernsvinet 13841]

Dark Sugarbabe skrev, for 3 timer siden:

But how do you clients/sugardaddies feel about knowing that your sugar-partner is in a steady relationship?

I have the same approach as my old girlfriend: "I don´t care - just don´t let me find out about it if You are a butterfly" - or You can just tell them Your boyfriend is another client.
But it is really not my business and not Your boyfriends business either - and I hope You save Your special income on a special account, he does not know anything about - and if is cash: hide them in a safe and fireproof place - or better in a bankbox.

If You do tell Your boyfriend about Your special income - try to downplay it and only give him much smaller numbers - both money and number of clients/encounters.

It is always a good idea to have few, but steady and reliable clients - but don´t count on it in the long term, if You don´t give them special deals.

[Guest Max Speed]

We don’t care as  long as you are horny and giving all your attention to us in the moment.

[Dark Sugarbabe 162]

Max Speed skrev, for 10 minutter siden:

We don’t care as  long as you are horny and giving all your attention to us in the moment.

I do 

Sometimes my sheets are so wet after all my attention 

[Dark Sugarbabe 162]

Jernsvinet skrev, for 50 minutter siden:

If You do tell Your boyfriend about Your special income - try to downplay it and only give him much smaller numbers - both money and number of clients/encounters.

It is always a good idea to have few, but steady and reliable clients - but don´t count on it in the long term, if You don´t give them special deals.

I understand. I don't give him any numbers even if they are small numbers due to my limited time for this game 

I want exactly stable relationships over a longer period of time. That's why I'm a little curious about how the men look at this topic. And of course, stable relationships are equal to other and better agreements - for both parties 

But my fantasies have also led me to several spontaneous, quick and dirty deals. My boundaries are changing a bit and fortunately there is room for both.

[AgentLeman 823]

ive never done sugar dating before but i imagine there is a deeper connection between sugardaddies and sugarbabes than regular gp and client . so if i knew ur in a real relationship then i dont think our relationship will ever get that deep . so i wouls be discouraged .

also u never know with men that think its ok , maybe they change their mind and get jaloux some day .

[TheLion 724]

Dark Sugarbabe skrev, for 12 timer siden:

(…)

I love sex and that's why I do this. At the same time, I am in a nice and stable relationship, where my boyfriend knows what I am doing. 

But how do you clients/sugardaddies feel about knowing that your sugar-partner is in a steady relationship? …

(…)

Never sugar dated so I wouldn’t know (and probably never going to – who knows?). As far as I know I guess you could ask two different questions: How would it feel for a partner to have a partner who is sugar dating? And how would it feel for a sugar daddy to have a sugar babe with a partner?

 

Once heard of a girl who was sugar dating and had a boyfriend who knew about it (like you describe). Not sure if the sugar daddy knew. No matter what I would guess communication would be very important so everyone knew about the situation but that said I could imagine many people not being okay with it. Maybe not so much because of jalousie as @AgentLeman describes but simply because as he also describes of a question of intimacy. Like it would probably be easier if it was a partner and the girl just saw other clients and the other way round (and this could also be complicated to some people). As a client I wouldn’t really care if a prostitute or an escort has a boyfriend for instance (as in I don’t really see how it should affect the meeting). But I could imagine that what you describe could give some complications. As far as I understand a lot of money can be involved in sugar dating too. But once again it would depend on the people involved etc. For instance you seem happy about it in your descriptions seeing more then one sugar daddy and having a partner (of course I have no clue how they feel) 

Redigeret 19. April, 2023 af TheLion

[Dark Sugarbabe 162]

TheLion skrev, for 7 timer siden:

As far as I know I guess you could ask two different questions: How would it feel for a partner to have a partner who is sugar dating? And how would it feel for a sugar daddy to have a sugar babe with a partner?

Actually I’m only ask one question.

I know how my boyfriend feels. I can talk rather free with him about the subject and I can only guess, but I would think that most boyfriends woudn’t like it.

I was more curious about how the sugatdaddy/client was feeling about it. And I’m aware about compiclations but I have not experienced something like that yet. But Im still new and unspoiled 

 

[TheLion 724]

Dark Sugarbabe skrev, for 2 timer siden:

Actually I’m only ask one question.

I know how my boyfriend feels. I can talk rather free with him about the subject and I can only guess, but I would think that most boyfriends woudn’t like it.

I was more curious about how the sugatdaddy/client was feeling about it. And I’m aware about compiclations but I have not experienced something like that yet. But Im still new and unspoiled 

 

Thank you for your answer. I said that in the situation you can ask two questions. I know you asked one of them.

 

As I also wrote:

TheLion skrev, for 12 timer siden:

(…)

Once heard of a girl who was sugar dating and had a boyfriend who knew about it (like you describe). Not sure if the sugar daddy knew. No matter what I would guess communication would be very important so everyone knew about the situation but that said I could imagine many people not being okay with it.

(…)

As I said if everyone can communicate and be happy it about I guess it is good for them. Though there might be an intimacy issue (of course jalousie too, but I would be more worried about the intimacy issue). No clue about your situation, but as I said many people think differently about stuff like that.

 

Probably it would be better that someone with more experience in sugar dating could tell more 

Redigeret 19. April, 2023 af TheLion

[Guest hrolandj]

Dark Sugarbabe skrev, den 18.4.2023 at 13:58:

I have to say that I give myself quite a lot to my nice clients/sugar daddies both sexually and personally. And I’m looking for steady relations because I love to get to know people.

I have researched the subject of sugardating extensively and there are very few men who are actually looking for a sugarbabe. Most men mistake "amateur prostitutes" - girls who don't make a living out of prostitution but does it 'every now and again' - for sugarbabes and the same goes for the girls, who think they are sugarbabies because it sounds better than amateur prostitute or simply prostitute. It's even a bit trendy for a girl to be a sugarbabe.

Since you are looking for a long term relationship with a sugardaddy you actually understand the concept, but that causes a rather large problem; 99% of the men on sugardating-sites are looking for one-time hook ups for money with girls who aren't professionel sexworkers. I think you might find it difficult to find an actual sugardaddy, who is looking for that long term extramarrital affair that you offer.

The reason I am writing this is because you describe yourself as "new to the game" and "naive about it". Most of the men you will encounter in your search is looking for a "hook up" and not a relationship, I'm afraid, but if you search long and hard enough you will find the right man for the position as your sugardaddy! (at least I hope you do!).

Dark Sugarbabe skrev, den 18.4.2023 at 13:58:

But how do you clients/sugardaddies feel about knowing that your sugar-partner is in a steady relationship? Does knowing in advance affect your desire to meet? Is it not good to find out afterwards?

I believe this will be very subjective on an individual basis for the prospective sugardaddy, but the men I have interviewed in my research, are either on one side or the other. Some expects his sugarbaby to be faithful to him and him alone - while he is free to have sex with his wife and any other girl he wants/can get - and some are happy as long as you are there for him and only him when you are together, but doesn't care what you do in your "spare time". I have interviewed one man who insisted that his sugarbaby had to use condoms with all other men - including a boyfriend if she had one - so that he could have sex with her without condoms and without the fear of getting a disease.

Knowing how limited the pool of actual sugardaddies is in Denmark and halving that pool to the kind of sugardaddy who doesn't mind you having a boyfriend as well severely limits your potential for finding a sugardaddy - on the other hand, and I can't stress this enough, you should never ever compromise in other to satisfy the sugardaddy. It HAS to be on your terms and none at all!

Dark Sugarbabe skrev, den 18.4.2023 at 13:58:

Some say they turn on to fuck another man's woman, but is that a general feeling?

I don't think a lot of men has this niche among their fetishes, but you can make it a niche for him but "manipulating him" into thinking it will turn him on. All you have to do is tell your sugardaddy that you are turned on by having sex with a man who is turned on by fucking another man's girlfriend and the fetish will often develop in him - simply because you claim it turns you on that he feels that way. Men are easily manipulated in this way....

[People Pleaseren 875]

I would prefer you being single. You are less interesting to me when I know you love somebody else.

[yrghh 1585]

There is no general answer for how men see it.
There are many different ways to look at it, an any man can go through all different views throughout his life.

Some of the extremes are: 

The Dominator: For him it doesn't matter if you have a relationship. You are willing and that's enough. It will even be a turn-on and a feeling of domination to know you have a boyfriend waiting at home while he is fucking you.

The Challenger: He will have a secret hope, that you will fall in love with him. He will see your boyfriend as a challenge and will try his best to convince you, that he is the better man by offering gifts, friendship and favours. But if he ever wins you over, the challenge is gone.

The Empath: He will know that your heart belongs to someone else, and will be worried that the other guy may be hurt, even if you say that you and your boyfriend has an agreement. He will feel bad after the sexual act, and will most likely not see you again.

And in between there are thousands of variations...

The question is. What kind of sugardaddy do you want?

Personally I am probably in the 1% not fitting into the resaerch mentioned by Hrolandj. I have been searching for like a long term sugarbaby in the very traditional sense, where the emotional connection is equally important to the physical and mental attraction to a youthful woman. I gave up finding her because just as 99% of the men on sugardating sites are only looking for sex, 99% of the women there are offering only sex. I don't believe those numbers are representative for the society in general, but i do understand that those sites are the best way to find interviewees although the numbers will be skewed severely - like going to a football match and asking how many are interested in football. 

I know some SBs who use apps like tinder and happn because there they will meet a moderately higher rate of guys who are primarily looking for a relation rather than an amateur prostitute. I'm not sure their luck is any better though.

[italianovero 20]

Dark Sugarbabe skrev, den 18.4.2023 at 13:58:

But how do you clients/sugardaddies feel about knowing that your sugar-partner is in a steady relationship? 

I don't give a fuck

You are not a sugarbabe.You are a prostitute and your boyfried is a lazy ass cheap charlie, acting as your pimp

 

[Dark Sugarbabe 162]

italianovero skrev, for 10 minutter siden:

I don't give a fuck

You are not a sugarbabe.You are a prostitute and your boyfried is a lazy ass cheap charlie, acting as your pimp

 

Nice attitude

[Stapler 1447]

italianovero kommer ikke tilbage til denne tråd.

[Didrik Slagheck 21]

It's quite common for prostitutes aka "Sugarbabes" to have a boyfriend or even to be married, it's a private matter for them, not my problem.

 

[TheLion 724]

yrghh skrev, den 17.5.2023 at 20:59:

There is no general answer for how men see it.
There are many different ways to look at it, an any man can go through all different views throughout his life.

Some of the extremes are: 

The Dominator: For him it doesn't matter if you have a relationship. You are willing and that's enough. It will even be a turn-on and a feeling of domination to know you have a boyfriend waiting at home while he is fucking you.

The Challenger: He will have a secret hope, that you will fall in love with him. He will see your boyfriend as a challenge and will try his best to convince you, that he is the better man by offering gifts, friendship and favours. But if he ever wins you over, the challenge is gone.

The Empath: He will know that your heart belongs to someone else, and will be worried that the other guy may be hurt, even if you say that you and your boyfriend has an agreement. He will feel bad after the sexual act, and will most likely not see you again.

And in between there are thousands of variations...

The question is. What kind of sugardaddy do you want?

(…)

I am really not an expert in sugar dating. And I typically find your descriptions of different topics quite hilarious. I will though say here that I find your personality descriptions here a little too “stereotypical”. They are as you say extremes. And to some degree true. But for instance I think there would be more into it for “The Dominator” than just fucking the girl. There would also be an aspect of being the dominating part. And I really don’t know if I would call it “The Empath” what you also describe. Maybe more like “the caring type”. But an interesting idea with these personality types in this context used to describe different kinds of sugar daddies. Could probably be used in others too 

Redigeret 26. Maj, 2023 af TheLion

[sikkersex 61]

Dark Sugarbabe skrev, den 18.4.2023 at 13:58:

Hi

I am new to the Sugar game. I am very curious, but probably also very naive in my approach to the game.

I'm trying my best and sometimes making a lot of mistakes in my approach to you men.

That's why it's fantastic if I can get some good advice and input in here, as I also get a lot of good sex and company out of the game 

I love sex and that's why I do this. At the same time, I am in a nice and stable relationship, where my boyfriend knows what I am doing. 

But how do you clients/sugardaddies feel about knowing that your sugar-partner is in a steady relationship? Does knowing in advance affect your desire to meet? Is it not good to find out afterwards?

Some say they turn on to fuck another man's woman, but is that a general feeling?

I have to say that I give myself quite a lot to my nice clients/sugar daddies both sexually and personally. And I’m looking for steady relations because I love to get to know people.

But I want to be honest so I just want to know, how you feel about it.

Kisses from E 

get a divorce , is my adwise, i dont fuck with other mens , or womens , women

[Dillermand Junior 2948]

@Dark Sugarbabe Dont have any experience with sugardating really but sugardating or meeting a GP it doesnt matter to me if theres a boyfriend as long as he is okay with it and you yourself enjoy what you are doing and is present with your sugardaddy when together. 

as long as everyone involved knows and is okay with it i dont see any issues at all. 

[Dillermand Junior 2948]

@Dark Sugarbabe but i also think you should shortly mention it in your profile / add and be honest about it. 

Sure it will scare of some men and it might be a turn off or ethical problem for some, but the worst that can happen is those men dont contact you and you get contacted by those who are okay with it wich is for the best anyways. 

Good luck with everything and i hope you find some good and kind suggardaddys that gives you exactly what your looking for